Eye Contact - The eyes are the gateway to the soul. Establishing eye contact helps to build an intimate connection between you and your partner. You may feel nervous and even vulnerable at first but making eye contact during lovemaking lets your partner know that you are present and experiencing the moment with them. This helps to build trust, which ultimately leads to building and maintaining a more intimate relationship.
Touch - Kissing, massaging, stroking, and caressing all produce Oxytocin, the bonding chemical. Touching each other throughout the day creates a feeling of closeness. Touching also helps to build desire for each other. Try touching each other without moving into intercourse. Building up the tension over the course of a few days can also lead to a deeper connection and more intense sexual encounter.
Breathing- Breathing together creates an instant connection between you and your partner. Synchronized breathing is a way to heighten pleasure, arousal and connection during lovemaking. When you breathe deeper you bring more oxygen into the body, which heightens the intensity of arousal and orgasms. Sit in a yab yum position (face-to-face) and try alternating your breath as you breathe into each other’s mouths; this exercise is very intimate and has been used in ancient traditions, such as tantric sex and Kama Sutra, as a way to share your soul.
SeXy Talk- Whispering sweet nothings into your lover’s ear can instantly open their heart not too mention sending blood rushing into their “ego”. Try sending seXy text messages and romantic reveries to your lover throughout the day. This not only builds anticipation but it keeps your partner thinking about you all day, thus increasing the connection between you.
Do Something Extraordinary- Surprise your lover? Doing something extraordinary for your partner lets them know how much you care about them and that you’re will to go the extra mile to please them. You will be surprised at how much your partner will appreciate you for considering their needs and desires.
Allow Yourself to Be Vulnerable- It takes a lot to let down your guard, especially if you’ve been hurt before. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable by letting the walls around your heart melt gives your partner permission to penetrate you spiritually, intellectually, emotionally and physically. It also allows you to fully connect with your partner on all levels by experience the relationship in all its dimensions.
Cooking Together- Creating a romantic dinner together offers opportunities for intimacy and closeness. Certain foods contain 
chemicals that are considered to have an aphrodisiacal effect. Such foods include: ginger, curry, bananas, coconut, honey, oysters, saffron, soy, truffles, and artichokes just to name a few. Additionally, chocolate is considered to be create lover’s high because it of the chemical phenylethylamine (PEA) that is found in chocolate. PEA is responsible for feelings love and passion. Enjoy a sensual feast with your lover. Take time to feeding each other while relishing in the aroma and flavors of the food.
Role Play- Step outside yourself and try to be someone or something else for the evening! Dress up and play sexy games with your partner. Surprise your partner with a striptease. Become a video vixen! Use your imagination and be creative! The sky is the limit! But most of all be safe and have fun!
Trying Something New- Be Adventurous! Many couples get stuck with the bedroom blues when it comes to sex and intimacy. To break free of the monotony, try something new! Do something you have never done in bed but have always wanted to. Take a class together at a sexy boutique, take a trip to a lingerie store, play sex games or introduce sex toys into your lovers’ repertoire. Try watching an adult movie with your partner to learn some new moves.
Set the Scene- Think of lovemaking as a theatrical piece, you need the right lighting, right mood, right props and costumes (or lack there of). Set the scene for intimacy with sensual music, candles, soft fabrics, sexy toys or a even a different environment. Don’t limit intimacy to the bedroom; you can also create a sensual experiences in the living room, kitchen or just about anywhere you can imagine! In all you do to set the scene; make sure you’re set for an encore performance!
