Adolescence is a time for “sexploration.” And with the click of a button, the internet has made it extremely easy to acquire information about sex and sexuality! The internet has increasing become the primary source of sexuality education and information; leaving a generation of adolescents more confused, misinformed and unprepared for the consequences of receiving inaccurate or misleading messages about sexuality which unfortunately results in increasing teen pregnancy rates, increasing rates of sexually transmitted infections including HIV, abortions and/or mental and emotional damage.
While I am all for the promotion of and accessibility to comprehensive sex education, I am not quite sure I can totally endorse the concept of adolescents totally relying on the internet as a means of receiving true comprehensive sex education.
My concerns are based on the accuracy and reliability of the information and material that may be posted on such “sex education” website. Teens need to have a reputable place to receive education and information about sexuality. Websites likewww.beautifully-me.com, Coalition for Positive Sexuality or Planned Parenthood’swww.betterthansexed.org, website offers reliable education and information from a staff of qualified professional sex educators. In addition, Beautifully Me’s website offers readers an opportunity to receive answers to any questions they may have by contacting our professional sex coach via email or telephone. This is an important component to our online sexuality education website because it allows readers to gain clarity or clear up any misconceptions by immediately providing access to someone who is qualified to address their questions or concerns. That way our reader leaves our site fully informed and empowered!
Another concern with online sex education websites is that the meta tags, which are designed to help users when searching for websites, could possibly be redirect a user to an sex porno, adult chat and/or adult sex & swinger website versus an educational sex website with material that is appropriate for adolescents usage which could potentially present a more dangerous situation for a vulnerable and uninformed adolescent.
Parents need to be aware that your teen maybe viewing some of these “sex education” websites. If you find that to be the case, visit the website yourself to ensure the integrity of the materials on the website. Review the content of the website with your adolescent to ensure that they understand what they are reading. Use it as a great talking point to begin open and honest conversations about sex. Remember it is not the responsibility of the internet to educate your adolescent about sexuality. If you are uncomfortable talking with your adolescent about sexuality, refer them to a qualified sex educator.
Technology has forever changed the way that we communicate. Almost everyone young and old has a cell phone. The advent of cell phones has proved to be a life saving yet very dangerous mode of communication when used recklessly by teens that are engaging in the dangerous and disturb trend of “sexting.” So what is sexting? Sexting is using cell phones to send sexually explicit messages, images or videos to a boyfriend, girlfriend or to “cyber” flirt with someone with a “crush.”
According to a 2008 survey of 1,280 teens of both sexes on Cosmogirl.com sponsored by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 20% of teens (13-19) had sent nude or semi-nude photographs of themselves electronically. Additionally, 39% of teens and 59% of young adults had sent sexually explicit text messages.
Why are so many teens sexting? I conducted brief interview with teens ages (12- 18), and here are some of the reasons they indicated for sexting. Many teens think that it’s “fun,” “cute,” or “sexy” to send a “sext” message to their boyfriend of girlfriend. Privacy also plays a part of the appeal, but what many teens don’t realize is that the X-rated offerings that are usually intended just for a boyfriend or girlfriend, often wind up being shared with others. Some teens admitted to using sexting as a way to “cyber” flirt with someone that they are interested in or have a crush on. Some teens reported using sexting as a way to learn more about sex from their friends because they can’t talk to their parents, guardians or teachers about sex. Low self-esteem also played a huge role in sexting. Mostly teen girls admitted to sexting as a way to “feel love,” “be liked,” “fit in” and/or gain popularity among peers. And finally, so teens reported “getting off” sending and receiving explicit sexual message, images and videos.
Sexting has become so popular that even several television show such as: Good Morning America, The Tyra Banks Show, Law & Order: Special Victims Unit, Degrassi: The Next Generation, have all featured episodes on sexting. In addition, popular songs such “LOL Smiley Face” have glamorized sexting and even encouraging teen girls to engage in this behavior.
“Shorty just text me, says she want to sex me
LOL smiley face, LOL smiley face
Shorty sent a twitpic saying come and get this,
LOL smiley face, LOL smiley face
Go to my page and follow and if you got a body like a coke bottle, Shorty sent a twitpic saying come and get this,
LOL smiley face, LOL smiley face”
The glamorization of this dangerous combination of teens behaving provocatively and the accessibility to technology makes it extremely unsafe for a variety of reasons, even some which could prove to be deadly:
Sext messages can be accidently sent to wrong cell phone number. In the wrong hands, these messages can be forwarded to other cell phones, posted on school computers or posted online on different social networking sites such as Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, which now presents an even bigger issue.
A jilted boyfriend or girlfriend can use for the “sext” message as blackmail.
Character and/or reputation can be ruined based of negative judgment by others. Teens face humiliation, embarrassment, or name calling. Girls may be called a whore, slut, easy. Guys may be called jerk, etc.
There’s potential for sexual harassment and/or stalking by other students and/or child predators. Child predators prey the vulnerability of teens and even encourage sexting, posting online profiles and communication via online chat rooms, which can result in a very dangerous even deadly situation.
Sexually explicit messages, images and videos can follow you the rest of your life. Once the messages, images or videos are out there, you can’t take them back. Often time teens don’t think long-term and don’t realize that the choices theyake today can affect there future.
The consequences of sexting are so severe that there have been several legal cases and charges ranging from child pornography to felony obscenity and even prison time for teens or young adults that have been caught sexting. In at least one high-profile incidentan 18-year-old Ohio woman committed suicide after a former boyfriend widely distributed a nude digital photo of her that she had sent him. Additionally, in some jurisdictions across the country, teens caught sexting may have to register as a sex offender.
The bottom line is that sexting/sending explicit or naughty pictures, words using your cell phone IS NOT seXy, cool or safe. Stick to Using your cell phone for making calls or sending teen “friendly” appropriate messages to your friends.
The Female Health Company (FHC) announced that its second-generation FC2 Female Condom® is now available for purchase in the United States. The condom received regulatory approval from the Food and Drug Administration in March as an HIV prevention method.
The new female condom is synthetic rubber rather than polyurethane, allowing for a less costly manufacturing process and quieter sound that is less likely to disrupt the intimate act. The new condoms will be 30% cheaper than its predecessor and are supposed to be more user friendly and hopes the new price will make it more attractive to health organizations for distribution. In addition, FHC hopes this help in the fight against the global HIV epidemic and other sexually transmitted diseases. Click here to read our previous blog on women and condoms.
“Women are becoming more empowered and proactive in taking control of their sexual and reproductive health. It is no longer considered the man’s the responsibility to provide the protection in sexual situations. The female condom definitely gives women the power to protect themselves without relying on their partner. It is extremely important for women to have the knowledge, skills and tools necessary to facilitate safer sexual experiences!”
This is the first of many videos of my journey back to the studio in over four month!!! I’ m brushing up on my skills and getting back into the “swing” of things. I know I’m a bit rusty so be gentle with the feedback! Thank you!
What’s your sex number? Inquiring minds want to know! Well, I’ve had approximately 5,807,211 sexual partners throughout the course of my life! **gasp, wtf?!?!** Ok so now that I have your attention! That number is really counting how many direct and indirect partners I’ve had from the age of 16.
After reading an article that the average British person has had indirect sex with 2.8 million people, I was dying to know how many people I’d tangentially slept with. So I went to this websiteSex Degrees of Sexual Partners,” a calculator developed by Lloyds Pharmacy designed to scare you the freaking crap out of you or at the very least, make you think! And while the numbers may or may not be accurate, it definitely helps to promote sexual health awareness and helps you to re-evaluate your sexual behaviors and risks.
Based on the ideal of the Six degrees of separation (also referred to as the “Human Web”) which refers to the thought that, if a person is one step away from each person they know and two steps away from each person who is known by one of the people they know, then everyone is at most six steps away from any other person on Earth. The “Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners” totals up the numbers based on your number of partners, then their previous partners, and their former lovers, and so on for six “generations” of partners.
This information is intended to remind us that when we have sex with someone, we are, in effect, not only having sex with them, but also their previous partners and their partners’ previous partners, and so on. “It’s important that people understand how exposed they are to sexually transmitted infections and take appropriate precautions in protecting themselves.” In addition, I hope this information will spark open and honest conversations about sex and sexuality.
It’s so important to ask your mate or potential mate the right questions. You have right to know their sexual thoughts, attitudes and behaviors! If they aren’t willing to divulge the information, then you may want to consider losing that mate and finding a new one! Your life is far more important than a few moments of pleasure.
Although this study was conducted in the UK, I can’t only help but to wonder what the average would be for a man and/or woman in the US. Theoretically thinking about the millions of people you’ve sort-of slept with makes you a little queasy.
Now that you’re effectively terrified, I still encourage you to use the Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners to help you put things into perspective and make the necessary behavioral changes! And if you really want a get scared monogamous, ask your mate his or her sex number too.
Over the years on my journey of growth, I have come to fully embrace the notion that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What this phase simply means is that beauty is a divine spirit comes from within and not from societal ideology. So why then do we subscribe to this ideology? Why do we spend all of our time and money trying dangerously to alter ourselves so that we fit into a narcissistic belief system instead of being true to who we are, loving ourselves and owning it?
Loving yourself extends far and beyond putting on make up and a pretty dress. It’s much deeper than the too die for designer handbag and my beloved it’s much higher than the 4inch stiletto heels we strut in! It transcends!! And yes while beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there are just some things you can not cover up with pretty fabric and designer labels no matter how much is cost.
The fallacy that being beautiful on the outside will get you the love you so desire is an unfortunate delusion, courtesy of the media, that we’ve all been guilty of believing. When the fact of the matter is that we can be all dressed up and beautiful on the outside but yet very unattractive on the inside.
True beauty is defined by the spirit of character and not by reputation or physicality. It is seeing the divine in yourself and others regardless of all the distressing disguises.
Ownership is the key to true beauty. You have to really dig deep inside your soul to truly own it. You must face fears, dispel myths and negative stigma that society deems as beautiful. You must be willing to go against the status quo and become comfortable walking in your own heels.
The key to ownership is learning to love yourself in all your colors, and yes even the part that you so desire to change because you’re confident in knowing that change will occur over time. Learning to trust and follow the divine spirit within yourself will enable you to find the strength and courage to own all that is authentically yours. And as you begin to embrace the divine spirit within you, you will posses the capacity to manifest and attract all you need and/or desire; and that my Beloved is true beauty….a divine spirit that has no boundaries, no form, no beginning or ending. It can never fade or die because it is energy!
eXperience Jamaica and Grand Cayman Island like never before as you set sail with Beautifully Me, LLC we embark on “A Sexy at Sea Celebration 2010!”
This empowering and self-renewing getaway is a fabulous opportunity to discover, explore and unleash your feminine powers!!
This 5-day Western Caribbean Cruise sails out of the port of Miami on September 11th, heading for the tropical paradise of Ocho Rios, Jamaica and the Grand Cayman Islands.
This absolutely amazing getaway will empower your mind and rejuvenate your spirit as you reflect and reconnect with sexy while you mix, mingle and network with new and like minded women.
So grab your mate and/or girlfriends, your bathing suits, your imagination and leave the rest up to us! Oh yeah, don’t forget your passport!
And this time fellas we didn’t forget about you! You’re welcome to join in the fun and even partake in some of Beautifully Me’s workshops that are sure to stimulate conversation between the sexes!!
$225.00 initial deposit due by 10/16/2009. Initial Deposit must be paid to Beautifully Me, llc. All installments and/or final payments must be made with Carnival Cruise Lines. All balances must be paid in full by July 13, 2010.
Gratuity fees: $50.00 per person. This fee can be paid in advance or once you arrive on the ship.
**The Beautifully Me cocktail reception, a special thank you gift and workshop fees are included with your deposit **
**Cruise price does not include airfare, transportation or port fee.** Airfare is the responsibility of the guest or may be made with Carnival Cruise Lines**
Visit www.beautifully-me.com/sexy-at-sea for detailed information! **Cabins are limited!! Reserve your space today!**
In honor of our five year anniversary, we have added some new & fabulous products and services to provide you with a more empowering eXperience! We will be launching each product and/or service at different times throughout year five! New products &
services include:
Beautifully Me Live & On Demand (launching Jan 2010)
Signature Beautifully Me apparel line (launching Oct 2010)
To end year 5, we will be hosting our annual event! This year we will be hosting a SeXyat Sea Cruise! Join our membership program today and receive eXclusive benefits!!
Have we as women embraced the phrase “independent woman” so much that we have forgotten and/or lost the womanly art of femininity. In our conquest to becoming independent we have gotten so use to stepping up, taking the lead, competing and even being the “head” of the household that we no longer recognize the roles and responsibilities of women and men. This inability distinguish the difference is due impart to the breakdown in family dynamics, values and negative intergenerational patterns. Women are taught to pick up the slack and take on the responsibilities to make ends meet. Men are not being taught how to be men. And we both have not been taught how to be in healthy relationships. As a society, we no longer understand what it means to be ladies and gentlemen. We no longer place value in developing healthy relationships. Unfortunately, we have begun to embrace dysfunction and chaos as the norm within relationships thus contributing to the demise of the family structure.
It’s time for us to us to reclaim our rightful place as women. Now, by no means I am suggesting that women revert back to gender-based roles of the fifties. But what I am stating is that women, in all our strength, courage and beauty need to begin to understand and embrace our roles and responsibilities as women by learning create a beautiful balance between strength and vulnerability and knowing when and how to utilize the two. We must begin to insist that men reclaim their rightful place as well by learning how to step up and take the lead. In his doing so, we must learn to follow, support and encourage his efforts. Yes, it’s ok to step aside and allow a man to be a man by submitting to his lead. Submit?!! **gasp** Did she just say submit? I most certainly did. But before you begin to get too offended and/or disappointed by my previous statement, let’s clear up a few misconceptions about what it means to be submissive.
Being submissive does not mean that a woman should give up of whom she is and allow a man to control her. Submission is truly a voluntary act of love and belief in your mate. So in essence, submitting to your mate simply means allowing him to do what he was created to….protect, provide and lead.
Now of course there are exceptions to every rule. The exception here is that everyone isn’t worthy of submitting to! Because submission is the ultimate act of unconditional trust, you must be confident that your mate knows and understands his roles and responsibility of being a man. In addition, you need to be sure that he is worthy of sharing, honoring and celebrating the woman that you are. A partner who knows this will not demonstrate this to you by respecting you, not engaging in unhealthy behaviors that potentially put you or him in harms way nor would he a make major decision without consulting with you.
Always keep in mind that every man you date may not understand his role and responsibility as a man therefore it is extremely important that you choose you mate wisely. Otherwise you may find yourself in an unhealthy relationship being led by someone with self-defeating behaviors that does not have YOUR best interest at heart. A man who knows how to play his role, will respect you, protect you and always keep your best interest at heart.
It is also important to understand that submitting to your mate lead does not make you weak and/or vulnerable. In all actuality it makes you a strong woman to be able to allow yourself to be vulnerable enough to trust your mate to take the lead and make the right decisions.
The more we understand our roles and responsibilities as men and women, the more we can navigate and facilitate healthier relationships.
Ladies, please understand that I am NOT saying give up your power to become totally dependent on a man! But what I am saying is…reclaim your femininity and understand your strength in your vulnerability. You want your mate to trust you enough to take the lead and make decisions, so you should do the same! You don’t have to always wear the pants in the relationship. As a matter of fact, putting on skirt every now and then can be quite refreshing!
The Female Health Company (FHC) announced that its second-generation FC2 Female Condom® is now available for purchase in the United States. The condom received regulatory approval from the Food and Drug Administration in March as an HIV prevention method.
What’s your sex number? Inquiring minds want to know! Well, I’ve had approximately 
Over the years on my journey of growth, I have come to fully embrace the notion that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What this phase simply means is that beauty is a divine spirit comes from within and not from societal ideology. So why then do we subscribe to this ideology? Why do we spend all of our time and money trying dangerously to alter ourselves so that we fit into a narcissistic belief system instead of being true to who we are, loving ourselves and owning it?
eXperience Jamaica and Grand Cayman Island like never before as you set sail with Beautifully Me, LLC we embark on “A Sexy at Sea Celebration 2010!”
In honor of our five year anniversary, we have added some new & fabulous products and services to provide you with a more empowering eXperience! We will be laun
Have we as women embraced the phrase “independent woman” so much that we have forgotten and/or lost the womanly art of femininity. In our conquest to becoming 
